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What is parallel parenting?

In the event that you have children with your ex-partner, you will be working together with him or her for the rest of your lives to raise your children; this is likely the case whether you like it or not. In some situations, the idea of working together with your ex may seem impossible. 

Ideally, you and your ex-spouse are able to work together amicably enough to raise your children. However, in some more toxic divorces this may be a very problematic scenario. According to Healthline, parallel parenting is one way that parents in an acrimonious divorce can work together to raise their children despite negative feelings for each other. 

When should we consider parallel parenting?

If you are not able to interact in a friendly manner with your ex-spouse on a regular basis, you should consider the benefits of parallel parenting. Parallel parenting is different from co-parenting in that with parallel parenting you are never in the same place at the same time as the other parent. 

Whereas with co-parenting both parents might show up for a music recital even if they are seeing other people, with parallel parenting only one parent would attend. 

What are the advantages?

The biggest advantage is protecting your children from the acrimony between you and your ex-spouse. Parallel parenting will give you and your ex-spouse enough space to prevent active toxicity while giving your children fair access to both parents. 

Additionally, some time of successful parallel parenting may help you and your ex-spouse be able to transition to a more traditional co-parenting arrangement. Time and space often allow bad feelings to settle, if only slightly.