HOW SHOULD YOU TELL YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT YOUR DIVORCE?

HOW SHOULD YOU TELL YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT YOUR DIVORCE?

While divorce is the best option for you and your ex-spouse, the idea of talking to your children about this choice may cause you to worry. 
Discussing this topic with your children does not have to be scary, since there are many ways to approach it with respect and understanding.  ​

​BE OPEN TO DISCUSSIONS

According to Psychology Today, some parents worry about their children not confiding their true feelings in them. Worries about where they are going to live or what the future looks like can be stressful for children, especially younger ones. In order to prevent this, encourage them to ask questions and talk with you about their inner thoughts.  

PICK YOUR WORDS CAREFULLY

When breaking the news, take care to give a straightforward and respectful explanation for why you and your ex-spouse chose to divorce. While some children may be mature enough to handle parts of the truth, you do not need to discuss the more personal details or disagreements you two had. Keep the description child-appropriate and factual.  

​EXPLAIN WHAT WILL NOT CHANGE

Children may only see the negatives in this situation, and may even blame themselves for somehow causing a divorce. Explain gently to them that this is not true, and make sure to spend extra time alone together doing activities that they enjoy. 
This added support and bonding will help reassure them that you will always be there for them, whether they live at your residence or your ex-spouse’s. Divorce can be a tricky subject to talk about, but choosing your words carefully and taking time to reassure your children can help it go smoothly.